Category: How-to

If you want to raise your self-esteem I recommend the “The six pillars of self-esteem” book by Nathaniel Branden. See also the previous post. Here I will elaborate on the six pillars of self-esteem, namely Living Consciously, Self-Acceptance, Self-Responsibility, Self-Assertiveness, Living Purposefully and Personal Integrity. Living Consciously I love that Branden recognizes this as the first pillar. Living consciously […]
Some people think self-esteem does not exist. Some people believe it does. Some people think you can raise your self-esteem. Some people believe you can’t. I belong to the former camp because I have consciously boosted my self-esteem. It is possible, indeed. Early years When I was young I did not have the inner feeling of […]
The need of feedback We all have needs. Basic needs and more complex ones. One of such basic needs, which is often unrecognized by others, is the need of receiving feedback. We want to know how we are doing, how we are perceived, how we perform, where we are against norms or expectations, what are […]
When people talk, listen completely This is the third post on active listening. Please read first the previous active listening posts, part 1 and part 2. There are two planes of active listening: setting-up the stage and caring for the message. The first plane was discussed here. In the second plane of active listening you are a facilitator […]
If there is one thing to make you an effective communicator, it is active listening This is a sequel to this post on active listening. In active listening, the magic happens because you shift your attention from yourself to the other person. You listen with the intention to understand. It is not an intellectual understanding only, but a […]